Rambliman ~ You are over thinking this. There is lots of space at CN to be off by yourself and your spouse on the AN beach. If you feel like speaking with people, do. If you don't feel like socializing then don't. You won't be thought of negatively one way or the other. The atmosphere is very relaxed. Our experience has been that most people who want to chat will pull their chairs close to one another, and those who want to be left alone don't. Someone might walk past you and say 'hello', but they won't strike up a conversation unless you want to. I really can not stress enough how fabulous the AN beach is and how warm and welcoming everyone is without any judgment toward anyone. Get your wife on the message board and have her read the posts. I think they will help her uneasiness.
Juliann & Jeff
Jamaica Soon Come