Thread: AN etiquette - newbie question

I just booked a reservation for the end of December / first week of January at CSS and am counting down the days! I haven't been to Jamaica in over twenty years and can't wait to get back. I'm looking forward to spending time Au Naturel but will admit to being a newbie. I have no hesitations (although my girlfriend does) about going AN but I do wonder what the proper etiquette is if I happen to get "aroused?" Maybe I shouldn't worry about such a thing, but if I'm on the beach with my girlfriend and we're both AN...? I'm assuming it's ok to just cover up with a towel until things get back to normal? Any feedback and advice would be appreciated.

simplest thing would be to just roll over... Others say jump in pool that the cool water would take of the situation, but you may have to walk to it. More of an issue

I doubt it will happen but if it does roll over and take a nap. AN is not a very sexual event. It is more about freedom from clothes and getting to know other great people. Most of these peole do not turn on anyone but their SO's...

Or roll over or run into the ocean. The water that is at shore is nice cool from the river. You will be fine. .

My husband was really concerned about this when we went in February, but it was a non-issue when we were at SSB (as far as I know. ) As everyone will say, it's really not a sexual experience. It's just a chance to meet new people, hang out (literally Ha! Ha!) and relax without worrying about clothes, tan lines, etc.

I would not worry. For some reason it just does not happen. I thought the same but maybe it is just the sure number of nude people. It's not porn just happy nude people. You will be fine

I feel better already! Thanks everyone I've decided to just relax and enjoy. And this may be a non issue anyway if my girlfriend doesn't want to participate in AN. I have plenty of time to convince her though

This is WAY off subject, but I wanted to tell the OP that he is going to be very pleased when he reaches Sangster. There have been so many improvements to the airport in just the last 12 years that he won't recognize the place. You no longer deplane onto the tarmac and then stand in the airport without any air-conditioning to get through customs and immigration. Plus, Couples has a really nice lounge with nice bathrooms. And when taking your flight out, the entire place is air-conditioned. It really is a nice airport now compared to 12 years ago.

Originally Posted by xtabi89

I feel better already! Thanks everyone I've decided to just relax and enjoy. And this may be a non issue anyway if my girlfriend doesn't want to participate in AN. I have plenty of time to convince her though

I would just let it go as far as your girlfriend goes. The more you push, the more she will most likely resist. So that being said, you will most likely meet people somewhere on the resort that enjoy the island and maybe they can help convince her to go. We have already met several couples that either did go and wished they did or waited untilt he end of their trip.

Thanks Vicky...I'm sure we'll have an amazing time either way. After we get there and have a chance to unwind I think she'll be up for it. If not this trip, maybe the next one. I'm assuming it's not really cool for me to hit the AN beach alone...?

Originally Posted by xtabi89

I'm assuming it's not really cool for me to hit the AN beach alone...?

xtabi89:

Sorry, it's not acceptable for you to hit SSB alone!

There is something said for unwinding unwinding ! It's like we all have stressful jobs and lives and it all goes away when you land on the island. What goes on in Jamaica stays in Jamaica.

Oh did I say, 6 more days until SSB ! ! !

Jeff we will see on SSB on the 17th. We will be on the island starting the 14th and then move over to CSS. I am sure you will recognize me by the Aggie hat

My wife would not accompany me to Au Naturel and I wanted to experience everything there. At first I had a slight problem with arousal, however, it soon disappeared as I got used to the situation.

Originally Posted by xtabi89

Thanks Vicky...I'm sure we'll have an amazing time either way. After we get there and have a chance to unwind I think she'll be up for it. If not this trip, maybe the next one. I'm assuming it's not really cool for me to hit the AN beach alone...?

If you are going to CSS, Sunset Beach is always open. Get up early and head over for her to check it out. Or go over at 5 for the sunset. She can be "clothed" and at least see the beach and how big it is. There is plenty of space to be by yourself if she is self conscious. But again, just let it go for a while, let her read the posts sometimes and then just wait until you get there.

Pat and Connie
We'll be looking for you. We'll have the Texas Ranger Koozies. There a pretty big group of us that have met over the years, now we all show up in July. Come say Hi if we don't see you first. Seems like we've met before?
We leave for Miami tomorrow eve, then first flight out on Wednesday... SEE YA SOON.
Jeff

We spoke to some AN experienced folks before we went on the beach and I asked the same question. The guys and a couple of the women suggested some alone time in the room before going to help with the arousal issue. But like everyone has said its just not that kind of vibe on the beach.
As far as getting your lady to the beach with you, we made the deal that we would try it for 30 minutes and if one of us didn't like it then we would both head back together and be done with the AN thing. Our first experience was at CTI, after 30 seconds we were hooked!! What an amazing experience. We did the day trade to SSB and loved it as well.

This does happen once in a while. Really the etiquette is just to stay where you are. Walking around etc. would be inappropriate. Taking a nap or dozing off it can happen and as long as you stay in your chair it is nothing to be concerned about. Just lying their with wife/girlfriend can cause this, but everyone there is adults. Sometimes it seems like it has a mind of its own, so just ignore it and stay seated and you will be fine.

Originally Posted by xtabi89

Thanks Vicky...I'm sure we'll have an amazing time either way. After we get there and have a chance to unwind I think she'll be up for it. If not this trip, maybe the next one. I'm assuming it's not really cool for me to hit the AN beach alone...?

You may want to double check that; I thought Tower Island a/n was the only place where men had to be with their wife/girlfriend and women could go alone, but the other a/n beaches did not have that requirement. Now it may be a little awkward to go by yourself but chances are if you tell her your going she'll go with you.
You could always wait until a little later in the afternoon after she's had a few glasses of liquid encouragement.

Well if it is rule that you cannot be on the an beach alone the security gaurds certainly didn't enforce it. (At CN) At one time there was maybe three couples and then three men by themselves on the an beach. Then one day (before 5pm) my girlfriend and I was in the an hot tub when a single guy came in to join us. Creepy. We left the area.

Originally Posted by dar-ken

Well if it is rule that you cannot be on the an beach alone the security gaurds certainly didn't enforce it. (At CN) At one time there was maybe three couples and then three men by themselves on the an beach. Then one day (before 5pm) my girlfriend and I was in the an hot tub when a single guy came in to join us. Creepy. We left the area.

I agree, that is kind of creepy. That is the sort of thing that freaks my wife out about being AN. We were at CSS SSB in April and there were locals crossing the river and walking up and down the SSB shore line. The security guards did not do anything. The just looked up from their book and then looked back down pretending they didnt see anything.

xtabi89 wrote : I have no hesitations (although my girlfriend does) about going AN but I do wonder what the proper etiquette is if I happen to get "aroused?"

Easy answer,, run a red flag to the top,, see if you get faster drink service!

I've really enjoyed and appreciate all the responses. My worries have been put to rest. And my girlfriend has been reading some of the posts here and now seems willing if not a little bit excited. Now I just have to count down the days until CSS. December hurry up and get here!

Originally Posted by excruzr

We were at CSS SSB in April and there were locals crossing the river and walking up and down the SSB shore line. The security guards did not do anything. The just looked up from their book and then looked back down pretending they didnt see anything.

For the record on this one, the first 10 feet from the water's edge is public, everywhere on the island, even at SSB. Security can't do anything about anyone (locals or tourists from another resort) walking along the edge of the water, so long as they keep moving. It is the same as in Negril, along 7 Mile beach. The only difference is that at SSB, the neighbouring resorts are not immediately next door like they are in Negril, so you don’t have constant traffic like you do in Negril.

While we were at SSB, the same thing happened to us, a few locals walked along the edge of the water to get to the opposite side of the beach. The local kids use the rocky outcroppings on the right hand side of the beach (facing the ocean) to catch fish, and they have to cross the beach to get to the fishing spot. They always stay along the water’s edge, which is their right to do so. It is not a big deal at all, so don’t worry about it! Every day, you will also get locals heading back up the White river after a day’s fishing… They don’t care that you are naked, so it shouldn’t bother you. They won’t be whipping out cameras or anything, so don’t worry about them either…

Last November while at SSB, we even had a couple of guys from another resort wash up on the beach in one of those sea kayaks. The wind was REALLY blowing that day, and try as they might; they could not stay out to sea. They ended up washing up right in the middle of SSB. Security went over and chatted with them, explained where they were (they were lost) and that they couldn’t stay. After giving them about 10 minutes for them to catch their breath, they were off again. It was interesting, because even though there was really nothing they could do about the fact that they got washed up on the naked beach, both guys sat down facing the ocean to catch their breath. They were not there to gawk, and they respected everyone on the beach enough to turn their backs while catching their breath.

Anyways, the point is that you will still find some people walking along the water’s edge at SSB. 99% of them will be locals, and will not pay you the slightest attention aside from perhaps a welcoming smile!

Last November was our first time going AN, and we chose SSB because we felt that it offered the most privacy in comparison to CN and CTI. We spent every day at SSB, and although there were a few locals that walked by every day, we found that it just didn’t bother us.

Go, enjoy, you will not regret it!

J&J

Originally Posted by Jay&Jen

For the record on this one, the first 10 feet from the water's edge is public, everywhere on the island, even at SSB. Security can't do anything about anyone (locals or tourists from another resort) walking along the edge of the water, so long as they keep moving. It is the same as in Negril, along 7 Mile beach. The only difference is that at SSB, the neighbouring resorts are not immediately next door like they are in Negril, so you don’t have constant traffic like you do in Negril.

While we were at SSB, the same thing happened to us, a few locals walked along the edge of the water to get to the opposite side of the beach. The local kids use the rocky outcroppings on the right hand side of the beach (facing the ocean) to catch fish, and they have to cross the beach to get to the fishing spot. They always stay along the water’s edge, which is their right to do so. It is not a big deal at all, so don’t worry about it! Every day, you will also get locals heading back up the White river after a day’s fishing… They don’t care that you are naked, so it shouldn’t bother you. They won’t be whipping out cameras or anything, so don’t worry about them either…

Last November while at SSB, we even had a couple of guys from another resort wash up on the beach in one of those sea kayaks. The wind was REALLY blowing that day, and try as they might; they could not stay out to sea. They ended up washing up right in the middle of SSB. Security went over and chatted with them, explained where they were (they were lost) and that they couldn’t stay. After giving them about 10 minutes for them to catch their breath, they were off again. It was interesting, because even though there was really nothing they could do about the fact that they got washed up on the naked beach, both guys sat down facing the ocean to catch their breath. They were not there to gawk, and they respected everyone on the beach enough to turn their backs while catching their breath.

Anyways, the point is that you will still find some people walking along the water’s edge at SSB. 99% of them will be locals, and will not pay you the slightest attention aside from perhaps a welcoming smile!

Last November was our first time going AN, and we chose SSB because we felt that it offered the most privacy in comparison to CN and CTI. We spent every day at SSB, and although there were a few locals that walked by every day, we found that it just didn’t bother us.

Go, enjoy, you will not regret it!

J&J

Sounds good, thanks for the clarification about the shore line being public. In addition to SSB we have also been to Haulover and Orient Beach. SSB is the best hands down. We spent 95% of our time on SSB. We are trying to go back this November for another 7 days. fingers crossed.