Originally Posted by
xtabi89
Thanks for the reply Jason. I booked the vacation to CSS in June after discussing options with my girlfriend. I explained to her that one of the main reasons I liked CSS was because we'd have the AN option. She definitely didn't endorse the idea but said she'd think about it. Whenever the subject came up in the months prior to arriving she would kind of laugh and say she didn't think she would be up to it, but that she'd think about it. I asked her to just give it 30 minutes (after an adequate number of tequila shots) to see if we'd get comfortable. She never really agreed but hinted that it was possible. So I knew there was at best a 50/50 chance. Once we arrived she made it very clear that she was NOT going and in fact was tired of hearing about it. (Keep in mind that we are dating, not married and that I paid for the entire trip.) To answer your question, no I didn't let it affect our vacation and we had a fantastic time. I told her I understood and respected her view, but was a bit disappointed. After that we just moved on and enjoyed our vacation. But I was very much looking forward to AN...it's just something I really enjoy. And I knew not to go to SSB alone in respect of other couples, and because I didn't want to leave her alone. Consequently my week in Jamaica ensued without any naked sunbathing and left me a little bummed. I've been divorced three years and this is the first serious relationship I've been in. I think I over analyze all the little dynamics of our relationship...wondering if she is the "right" one...stuff like that. So are couples who AN together more likely to have a successful marriage...lol?