
Originally Posted by
Questor
Hmm. I think we're more along these lines. I read many posts before going and was a little confused by what everyone said. I don't understand the meaning when people say they are just there because it's natural and that it's not about sex.
While I agree that it's not about oogling others and gawking or assessing, there is something more than just the warm sun and being free. I'd definitely say it's in the category of foreplay for us. Are you all (most) really saying you're not there for a turn-on? I'm not talking Hedo stuff, but for us it made for some great times later in our room.
I think the fact that it takes most some courage to work up to doing it says something more is going on than a "free and natural feeling."
All that said, we took a few days to work up to doing it and it was her rather than me that finally got up the nerve. The first time was a strange feeling. I will say that everyone behaves very well and nobody makes you feel uncomfortable.
We're both 40's and quite fit and didn't feel out of place.
I can remember our discussion before we did it. "Now we know people are going to look and we can't get offended because.....well that's why we're going."
It didn't take long before we felt fairly comfortable and even joined a group for discussion in/around the hot tub. We laughed later because I failed to notice a lady "lathering" up with suntan lotion in a manner meant for me. I hadn't even noticed she turned directly toward me to do her front. I was too dumb to realize it was meant for me.
We did go to the hot tub a few evenings and were disappointed that there was never anyone around. We're not swingers and certainly weren't looking for physical interaction, but there is lot's of spice in Jamaica: Isn't there?
I guess, by what I see here, that we don't really "get" the experience the way most do. I guess there is no harm in our experiencing it our way as long as we pretend it's all about a natural feeling and not about excitement (for later).
:shrug :evil smile
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