Booked but Feeling a Wee Bit Guilty...

[trouble]

YES you should feel bad....they grow up so fast and then they"re gone..out on their own...it should hurt, that's why you're mom and dad............. ok now that we got that out of the way... css csa cti....how many days ,what time is the flight.sun glasses flip flops..................goodbye we love you, be good, we'll call you.....AHH JAMAICA...sun feels good ...too much to drink,,lets get dressed for dinner ,i love you..ilove you too....i can't belive we have to leave.....we're back we missed you......20 years later..... they go to Jamaica,and you stay home and watch their kids.

[kitkatnpat]

Speaking as a Grandma...it is a wonderful time for the child and grandparents to spend time together without the parents hovering over. It allows us really to bond. The children come to us for hugs & kisses, stories, and being tucked in at night. I love that special time!!! Go and enjoy and your children and parents will have a great time.

[cbsmith]

We felt guilty the first couple of trips we took by ourselves but now it doesn't boter us as much. Last year we found out our son, who was 6, had been telling all his friends and teacher how many nights it was until he got to spend a week with his grandmother, he couldn't wait for us to go away.

[Robyn:)]

Never!! You should never feel guilty for taking some time with your partner to re-connect. My husband and I go away for a week every year and our 2 little ones go off to Grandmaland, which is like their vacation as well!! When we are away my husband and I can remember what it's like to enjoy a warm meal together and have adult conversation, it's good to have special time with your mate. Don't feel guilty I am sure your kids love going to Grandmaland as much as mine do, the only negative is adjusting your kids back to reality when they come back home!! Enjoy your vacation, you deserve it!

Robyn

[Moustache]

Enjoy.
It is a short time between having your children too young to leave home alone until they are too old to leave home alone.
Our boys (late teens then) enjoyed it when we were gone. Our house was always cleaner when we got home, but they always managed to leave some evidence they were on vacation too.
Mike

[smr2]

We are headed to couples SA in May and I am feeling twice as guilty because not only are we going away for the first time, but are going to be away on her birthday (she'll be turning 6). We were very fortunate to be invited to a wedding (otherwise I never would have planned to be gone on her birthday) and were thrilled to have a good reason to book the trip. Although I am so, so looking forward to this vacation (the first time ever my husband and I have been away to a resort together) I am feeling huge guilt about being gone on her actual birthday (we will be celebrating before we leave though). I'm sure she'll be fine as grandma and grandpa will probably make a huge fuss over her but pretty sure I'll be struggling on that day.

[wileeandrr]

Hubby said he wasn't sure he wanted to do our trip next year b/c of not having the little one w/ us. He says we need to start taking her w/ us. She is almost 6 and a half. I told him we could always bring the grandparents w/ us since they don't ever go anywhere, but that the B resort or something around is always an option.
What gives?
Any advice?
Thanks!

[sherrynchuck]

Hubby said he wasn't sure he wanted to do our trip next year b/c of not having the little one w/ us. He says we need to start taking her w/ us. She is almost 6 and a half. I told him we could always bring the grandparents w/ us since they don't ever go anywhere, but that the B resort or something around is always an option.
What gives?
Any advice?
Thanks!

I just gave someone else a name and review of a great place that allows kids. If you want to know email me.
sherry@lostshoeranch.com

[tabnkirk]

We just came back from a wonderful week at CTI. We left a 12 month old so I know exactly how you are feeling. We had wifi in our room and skyped with him every morning. It was always a great start the day and made me feel better. Enjoy your vacation.

[cambed]

T And for those that have grandparents or other family members that can take care of the kids, it should be a piece of cake. You're not leaving your kids with strangers.
Richie

Yes! This! I don't feel guilty about leaving our kids, but making all arrangements to leave the kids with a sitter - one who sort of knows the kids but not very well and isn't familiar with the house and who works during the day and isn't available if something unexpected happens during the day - is stressing me out. I wish, I wish, I wish we had grandparents or even a sister who could come in and stay with them. This is why we've been married 20 years and have never taken a major trip like this!

[MnK]

Your daughter is TOO adorable!!!!

One of the best things we can do for our children is nurture our marriage, so they grow up with happy and loving parents.

Our parents also really enjoy having our children to themselves for a full week. Its good bonding time for them and shows how much we trust them.

[Vickyj]

Our kids just want to go with us as they have been to Jamaica two times. Then we found Couples. But they have a lot of fun at the grandparents who live at lake. Last year was the first year we left one of them alone. He was 18, almost 19 and had a full time job, so he couldn't go to the lake. I wasn't so much guilty as nervous as to whether or not our house would still be standing when we got home. He called us and it cost a fortune, but so worth it as we knew he was safe.

[usafwife]

This will be our second time to CSS in 75 days.......

Are you serious?? Im so stinkin' jealous! LOL Last time we left the lower 48 states for a vacation was Maui 2004.....WITH our 2 daughters. soooooo looking forward to our June 2011 trip to Couples (CTI) to celebrate our 20th Anniversary. We are FIRST timers to Jamaica!

[Beach-bum]

My wife feels homesick for her children on every trip we take…and our kids are in their 20’s. Go figure.

Life is good

[NStrong]

Heck no! We started taking "grown up" vacations alone together when my son was 18 months old! Now the kids are 3 and 6 and we try to take once vacation with them and one vacation with just the 2 of us each year!

So many people start to neglect their marriage when the kids come along because everything is all about the kids - in the long run, it's better for the kids to have parents who have a strong, loving relationship! My husband and I have been together 21 years, and it's largely because we make couple time.

Also - the kids love that time with their grandparents - and when we come back we are so refreshed and recharged that we are better parents!

Cut yourself some slack - it's your life too!!
Enjoy!

[Blondie]

I am pretty sure that this was mentioned but I am going to mention it again anyway.

Yes you will feel guilty, but you really have to remember that at the end of the day if Mommy and Daddy are not together, in love with each, remmebering what brought them together in the first place then you will not be good for your children.

I remember my mom telling me when I was just a little girl that no matter how much she loved me and my brother and sister, she still loved Daddy just a little bit more, because he is the one that gave her us three kids. And when we were grown and on our own, it would be her and Daddy again so it would be sad if they lost their way on road to raising us. This came after I cried because she and Daddy were going away for the weekend and I was staying with my grandparents. The funny part is that when they came to pick me up, after I gave them a big kiss I was not ready to leave my grandmothers house. I was 4 and we still joke about it today.

The moral, go, enjoy each other, trust that your little ones are in the best possible hands, their grandparents, who after all raised you.