I would love to see your dress.
The arch was not extra, it was the standard one that comes with the wedding. We, like you and your fiance, were alone when we got married. It was perfect! We walked down the aisle together. We chose not to do a private dinner, but had reservations at Eight Rivers that night and I stayed in my dress. If you want to friend me on facebook, I have another album from our trip that is not open like my wedding album.
As far as the sun, I am very fair too. I tanned before we went so I had a good base and wouldn't burn.
I think, if I recall correctly, we had two different cake layers. My husband is a cake freak, so I let him pick it out. We did one layer of the rum cake and another that was chocolate.
If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to ask. Enjoy the planning. It will be wonderful.
P.S. We just booked a return trip for October of 2013 (so far away!) except we are going to San Souci this time. When we were there for our wedding we decided that we would like to try all 4 resorts eventually.
Kelly and Troy