I agree with those who said it's not one or the other; rude people are rude people. And I almost pity them. I mean, to be more focused on what someone else is wearing, etc. than your spouse and the amazing place you're breathing in at the moment? What does that say about you? Your priorities? Your marriage? It's a shame, really.

That being said, my we never experienced this when we went. I also think the poster who asked why you are focusing on the negatives before your trip had an excellent point.